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11 days ago

• mindtraveller says: Why do Japanese girls perhaps boys too end relationships with silence?
  Why do so many Japanese people just stop contacting when they want to end a relationship.
  
  This makes the other person feel so bad. One consolation i have when a relationship ends is that I can learn something from it. When it ends without explanation it is very difficult to find closure.
  
  Ignoring other human beings is rude, makes them angry, and creates bad Karma...would they be satisfied if I dropped them without saying a word? Of course I find my own closure and quickly move on. But when it happens my opinion of Japanese people gets lower and lower, and it happens on the internet more than in any other format! I guess there are not mutual friends that would hear the story of how they treated someone badly!
  
  Does this happen in the Uk or Us too? I always had a meeting with girls face to face if I wanted to end things. With UK, Canadian, or US girlfriends, and they did the same.
  
  

May 02, 2008

• lost.puppy.in.japan says: Dating and cauliflower ears...
  
  I'm wondering what girls think about this because my ears are beginning look deformed. Wrestlers, Judokas, and Jiu-jitsu players usually get them. I think they are disgusting and will try everything I can to prevent my ears from looking like cauliflower ears. Anyway, for the girls, would this, a guy with said ears, play a role in your decision to date him? Is it a turn off?
  
  BTW, the picture is not of me. My ears are no where near that bad.

Sep 19, 2007

• prapatang says: Question
  If a man is in a forest and speaks his mind, and there are no women to hear him, is he still wrong ?

Aug 09, 2007

• former user says: waking up
  this group is soon becoming a platform for moaning about girls, not to girls.
  
  So keeping with that ethic, I'll vent a little about my now EX.
  
  She won't dump me, but had me running around in circles playing some sort of brutal game. Today I'm dumping her, I'm not sure how I managed to un-brain wash myself but it had a bit to do with who I want in life and lot to do with my financial status.
  
  I'm just starting my company this year, and she was relying on me to pay for everything. Well, I ran out of play-time cash. This was a big eye opener for me.

Aug 03, 2007

• ltcampb31 says
  I like the girl I am currently seeing a lot but because of my job there is this ever present feeling of doom associated with the relationship... I would like to try to see her more and be with her but because of my work schedule this is incredibly hard to do. I am tired of meaningless relationships and would like for this one to work out. Any advice?

Jul 31, 2007

• former user says: getting hit on?
  I'm not sure why this happens, so I'm asking you girls.
  
  Right now I'm in a relationship, she's attractive and tall. Quite unique. I guess guys hit on her even when I'm around but she's friendly and clever enough to parry their attacks.
  
  However what I'm confused about is girls are hitting on me through her. Girls come up to her and say "wow your boyfriend is really good looking" or "he's so nice to you, you make a really good couple", or "is he a model!?"
  
  This never happens when I am alone or with guys. Girls totally ignore me unless I make a move.
  
  So what is the rule here? Why do you girls suddenly get randy when you see someone with his girlfriend?
  
  

Jul 30, 2007

• Saucy says: FYI
  Thought the time had come to let the boys in on a little secret. Of course this may not be a secret at all. Perhaps all the men out there have known or at least suspected this for some time, but I've never heard anyone talk about it so here goes:
  
  (Apologies in advance to anyone who finds the subject matter icky...but seriously, grow up already)
  
  Guys, have you ever been on a first or second date with a girl and decided to take a chance and propose having sex, only to have her say that she'd really like to, but unfortunately, it's her "time of the month"?
  Well, it's probably true that she'd like to....but it's probably not true that it's her time of the month. That's just a really good excuse to use when you don't have the courage to say one or more of the following:
  1) I'm not ready to go there with you yet
  2) I don't want you to think I'm easy or slutty
  3) I'm in dire need of a bikini wax.
  
  Cowardly, but effective.
  
  
  
  
  
  

Jul 25, 2007

• PinkRivet says: This is embarassing but....
  Tags: PinkRivet, date, girl, goin for it
  As soon as everyone stops laughing at the fact that I'm about to actually ask a question in this group, keep in mind that by asking for help, my pride is seriously wounded and I probably won't get over it for at least 3 or 4 hours. Be kind.
  
  Here is my situation... There is this chick... ok.. "young woman".. that I like. Ooooh... big shocker there eh? Ok but check it out.. I like her "a lot". And this is the first time in more than a year that I've pondered not breaking off contact after a few weeks.
  
  We've been out twice in the past but not had time to talk much. First time she was drunk and second time I was drunk. First kiss was on the first night so attaction is mutual so now I'm having dinner with her alone tomorrow night to see if we have anything in common and if we can enjoy an evening alone with each other.
  
  Oh by the way, she speaks not a word of English and has never been abroad so I'm losing a huge chunk of possible conversation ammo right there. I'm pretty confident that I can handle Japanese (as a language) but when I know I can speak English, it's very easy for me to just adlib the night and move around from topic to topic. With Japanese, I'd feel a lot better if I have a few things in mind to talk about. I desperately want to avoid the ackward silent pause of death.
  
  blah blah blah.. so what the hell is my question?
  
  What are some fun things to talk about? I want to keep the atmosphere light and amusing.
  She's 23 - kind of a Shibuya-style ギャル and works in a department store. Does anyone know of some current news about non-boring-ass topics? She lives in Kichijoji so anything interesting I can mention about Kichijoji? Yes I know about the lame "curse of inokashira park" but well.. that's stupid and I don't wanna talk about it.
  
  This could become an authentic short to medium-term relationship so looking for good advice. Thanks!

Mar 22, 2007

• lost.puppy.in.japan says
  How does a guy (foreigner) know when a Japanese girl is interested in him. I have lived in Japan about two years and although I want to date Japanese girls, I find that I am only dating foreign girls. I personally think J-girls are too shy to give off any signs (at least the ones in the countryside). What should I look for?

Feb 14, 2007

• former user says: Hurry up and Hug...
  I was browsing through asoboo today and came across a couple of blogs that were very similar topics to one that I just had with a female friend only last night. It has thus caused me to raise two questions. a) why do girls need decisions "now", and b) why do they always need a hug ? I have since put it down to the fact that girls are, well, girls, and that is it. But maybe there is more to it. Here is the context:
  
  a)
  In a mini-therapy session (when my friend needs to vent about her life, she just spills it out to me, and I just listen and nod) last night, my friend said that there was something going on with a guy at work, but so far it had been quite casual. She then decided that she wanted something more, and confessed to him. The catch was that she knows she will go to the US in one year, so she said that the relationship can only last till then. Understandably (from a guy's perspective), he said "woah! I need to think about it, as you (she) said that this is not something serious(open relationship i guess)" She was very disappointed and decided that if he couldnt make his mind up right then, then he didnt like her enough. She stated that time is short, and why couldnt he just make his mind up and enjoy now.
  
  I could understand from his P.O.V. that he needed time to think. After all, is it worth falling in love with someone who is going to leave you in a year? Need time to think and calculate. Weigh up pros vs. cons... But it seems that girls go by impulse. Act now, think later... right? or just her...
  
  b)
  girls and hugs. What is the big deal about hugs anyway? Another friend was telling me she liked to hug. That she didnt really want to sleep with the guy, but she liked to have someone in bed to hug, and that ended up in other stuff anyway. Then I just read a blog about another hugger.
  
  Personally, that makes me think of some beer t-shirt with hand-prints on the back for where to place your own hands in order to hug oneself (must be heineken); why need someone to hug when i can hug myself.
  
  What is the big deal with hugs?
  
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  Well, those are my lengthy V-day questions for you!